I came across this and it hits close to the heart. I've always believed in doing good even others does bad to us. It has always annoyed Jhon especially after seeing me cry from sadness and heartaches, I still want to do the right/good thing for the ones who cause it.
He tends to say "Why you care so much when they don't care for you?"
I know he means well. At least he understands my intentions while I understands his protectiveness. Well, a lady beautifully wrote what I've always believed in and also justified it in way I did not considered. I shared it to him, Fizah, my closest friend and now to all of you.
It's slightly long but worth the read.
[written by instagrammer: mysyahadah]
We are the broken hearted.
Betrayal, oppression, deception, whatever it may be that happened to us; the result is the same, a broken heart at the hand of a human. A broken heart that feels like it can never be fixed, and it was entirely someone else’s fault.The next time we begin to feel this immense and absolute anger towards the person who has harmed us, let’s make that shift, and forgive.
Forgive the one who has wronged us not because that person deserves it; rather, forgive them as a sign of gratitude to Allah for making us the oppressed and not the oppressors. There is no sin in being the oppressed; rather, Allah tells us that He is with the one who has been wronged and is constantly answering their Dua.
Understand that you are not the oppressor in this situation only because Allah has blessed you with His Mercy. Every soul has the ability to wrong others, every soul has the ability to be the oppressor, and Allah’s mercy prevents that.
Forgive as a statement that says,
‘Oh Allah I’m not forgiving them for their own sake, rather I am forgiving them as a sign of gratitude to You for steering me clear of those desires.I’m forgiving them out of my love for You. I’m forgiving them because I know You love it when a slave of Yours is merciful to others and I want to be of the ones that You love. My desires tell me to wish evil for them and to hold this grudge, but I put You over my own desire and I forgive them.’
Pray for those who hurt you. Pray for those who do not accept you. Pray that they realize their wrongs before they face their Lord. Pray that no one ever has to go through the same thing you did at the hands of this person. Love the brothers and sisters who have hurt you for the sake of Allah, because love is the only emotion that is strong enough to penetrate a hardened heart, but know it will take time. Perhaps years, but you will be a better person because you chose to take the higher route: Forgiveness.
It is not something that we do for others, it is something that we do for ourselves.To release ourselves from hatred and revenge. Those whose hearts are filled with hatred will never find peace and those who cannot find peace will never be happy.
He tends to say "Why you care so much when they don't care for you?"
I know he means well. At least he understands my intentions while I understands his protectiveness. Well, a lady beautifully wrote what I've always believed in and also justified it in way I did not considered. I shared it to him, Fizah, my closest friend and now to all of you.
It's slightly long but worth the read.
[written by instagrammer: mysyahadah]
We are the broken hearted.
Betrayal, oppression, deception, whatever it may be that happened to us; the result is the same, a broken heart at the hand of a human. A broken heart that feels like it can never be fixed, and it was entirely someone else’s fault.The next time we begin to feel this immense and absolute anger towards the person who has harmed us, let’s make that shift, and forgive.
Forgive the one who has wronged us not because that person deserves it; rather, forgive them as a sign of gratitude to Allah for making us the oppressed and not the oppressors. There is no sin in being the oppressed; rather, Allah tells us that He is with the one who has been wronged and is constantly answering their Dua.
Understand that you are not the oppressor in this situation only because Allah has blessed you with His Mercy. Every soul has the ability to wrong others, every soul has the ability to be the oppressor, and Allah’s mercy prevents that.
Forgive as a statement that says,
‘Oh Allah I’m not forgiving them for their own sake, rather I am forgiving them as a sign of gratitude to You for steering me clear of those desires.I’m forgiving them out of my love for You. I’m forgiving them because I know You love it when a slave of Yours is merciful to others and I want to be of the ones that You love. My desires tell me to wish evil for them and to hold this grudge, but I put You over my own desire and I forgive them.’
Pray for those who hurt you. Pray for those who do not accept you. Pray that they realize their wrongs before they face their Lord. Pray that no one ever has to go through the same thing you did at the hands of this person. Love the brothers and sisters who have hurt you for the sake of Allah, because love is the only emotion that is strong enough to penetrate a hardened heart, but know it will take time. Perhaps years, but you will be a better person because you chose to take the higher route: Forgiveness.
It is not something that we do for others, it is something that we do for ourselves.To release ourselves from hatred and revenge. Those whose hearts are filled with hatred will never find peace and those who cannot find peace will never be happy.
Selamat Hari Raya Maaf Zahir Dan Batin, semua!
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