That Perfect Relationship

Many people say that there is no such thing as a perfect relationship because there are bound to be arguments.

In their mind:

Perfect relationship = Perfect partner who constantly makes them happy and never ever make them sad and angry. No bickering and always get their way.

Thanks to reading the constant tweets of my emotional followers, who are always depressed, complaining and yearning for that perfect relationship [whether they are single or attached], I had an epiphany during lunch with Jhon.

At first, I was pretending to be cheesy and lovey-dovey by saying that we have a perfect relationship but as I grinned while Jhon began to laugh, it striked me.

What makes a relationship perfect is not that fact there are zero bickering but the fact there are less bickering.

Couples always complain that they are fighting and wished they don’t ever, saying that their partner is being insensitive AGAIN. It’s the fights that strengthen the relationship but of course depending on the situation.

Before I digress, my perspective in a relationship is:

Perfect amount of quarrelling + Perfect amount of love = Perfect Relationship

Jhon and I quarrel once or worst, twice a year and when we do, it is solved quickly. Sometimes I create a fake quarrel because I feel weird that we don’t; we can’t be THAT happy with each other right? I know, I sound like I am in denial perhaps, just pessimistic. We have been together for 3.5 years and still behave we are in the “honeymoon” period.

A perfect relationship is not to achieve that fairy tale but simply to be realistic.

Now, wouldn’t that be easier to be accomplished?