[i suggest reading those 2 posts before moving on]
On 23rd Dec 2009,
I took half day for work related issues and that was also the day that sis has an appointment with the Doc at KK Hospital. Abg Awil and her were supposed to tell the doctor their decision with the baby. To keep or to opt for an early termination.
They decided to go for the latter. Now, before most of you would preach about murder/cruelty, please take note that the whole family has fully thought about this and for my sis's life and not risking the baby's inevitable future, we believe this is the best option.
24th Dec 2009,
It was Christmas eve and sis was admitted at 7am in a Class A ward (private room with aircon). The whole family came over to visit after lunch and by that time, her doctor has inserted a pill in her for inducing her labor.
At that time, we suspected that the baby has already passed away because she never moved in the womb, not even when mom was massaging sis's stomach.
But we tried not to think about it and keep praying that everything will go smoothly. Sis suffered mensus-like cramps but that was it the whole day even though the nurse said she is dilated to 2-3cm. After she had an injection to ease the pain, she was dilated back to 1cm. We were very confused and irritated but there was nothing we can do. Abg Awil, mom and I stayed over for moral support.
25th Dec 2009,
It was a rest day for sis from the pills and was inserted a small object to encourage the dilation. There was very little progress so Mom and I went home to get enough rest.
26th Dec 2009
Sis said that there was a little of blood in her pad so we rushed to her side. Her doctor came over to check and she said that it looks promising because the placenta membrane is thin but she dared not give us any promises.
Between 1pm - 2pm, sis started to complain about on and off pains. She said she wanted to go to the toilet and as we were helping her, she seemed to be stucked in a lying position complaining that she suffering from extreme pain.
For all we know, she said that she felt something was coming out. Mom advised her to just push and let it out while Abg Awil called for the nurse. Everything else was a blur but i knew i had to be next to sis no matter what. I held her hand and soon, we heard a splash; her water bag just broke.
Just as the nurses cleaned her bed, at exactly 2.20pm, Nadia Natasha came into the world feet first.
She was clean. No blood whatsoever. After sis pushed the placenta out, the nurses took her away for cleaning.
When Nadia came back, we all cried more than ever. She was beautiful, no obvious deforminities except for her head. She was complete. We spent hours admiring her and prasing her but eventually, we had to send her to the morgue where they can keep her temporarily before we can send her to the cementary the next morning.
27th Dec 2009
Mom and I stayed over yet again and got ready for Nadia's burial starting at 10am. It was all planned by Abg Awil's dad and i followed while mom stayed with sis.
It was heartbreaking.
There are times i couldnt control my tears but i had to because crying for the deceased during the ceremony will bring heavy grief to them.
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Words cannot explain how we feel especially Sis and Abg Awil's. God decided to take her back.. We can't question him. We have to be grateful that we at least managed to see and touch her even for a while.
For those who think they can handle looking at pictures of a 4.5mth year old fetus, feel free to watch my slide show video. It is not professionally but sincerely done.
On a slightly lighter note, below is a short video of Shibly, my nephew saying Hello to Nadia.
Heads up, video has a brief showing of Nadia.
Al-Fatiha.
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