A.C.O.D - Adult Children Of Divorce

Real Talk

No matter at what age you are, 3, 10, 16, 21 or even 32 years old, when your parents divorce,
IT SUCKS.

Even if you understand why especially as an adult because you can relate and literally witnessed your parent's relationship first hand. It sucks because every child always have that dream of having a happy family, that happily ever after. A dream obviously the parents wished too, once a upon a time.



As an adult, you know the dreaded 'D' was inevitable, it's just that all of us like to deny it's existence.
In such situations, ignorance was truly bliss.

Situations would turn so bitter but after a while, it would go back to 'normal' and it would go bad again. It is because of that, all of us, the children and sometimes parents think whenever feces hit the fan, we would tell ourselves, it will be fine eventually.

Imagine that cycle for 43 years of marriage hood.

The adult child can be grateful for parents withholding the lawful separation because the parent wanted to make sure all children are grown up and married off. But it still hurts. Usually, divorces involve younger children and majority think it's easier to handle for an adult child.

Not necessarily.

Growing up in an unhealthy relationship, watching your parents fight or see them ignore each other like the plaque every single day does take a toll on us whether we like it or not. Even more so when you live under one roof and everyday, you can feel the tension that can be cut with a knife.

In some instances, a divorce that ends amicably has no problems at all but we all know those chances are slim especially when infidelity and money is involved.

When it comes to divorce, money is ALWAYS involved.

Obviously, I'm not going to indulge into personal information but the reason I am writing on such topics is because the same reason I share most things here. I know there are people out there that are experiencing similar situations too. I know this because I would get random personal messages or emails sharing their own experiences. They felt that they can relate and glad that they are not alone.

There's someone who can lend a ear and then there's someone who has been there too.

There are many scenarios in every relationship and divorce. I won't go through them all but I suppose what always boils down is...

What's next?

Who goes where? Who does what? What can we do to salvage our relationship as a family?
It's not always easy and clear as day.

The day was inevitable for the family and even so, we were never ready for it. Just because we seemingly accepting of the situation (no point being upset or angry) that does not mean it's okay. Sometimes parents think this acceptance as a green light too and they want to share their other not-so-secret life.

Dear all A.C.O.D, I can't really say that it will get better because as of around 2017, if everything goes smoothly, my siblings and I are one of you. I can predict tough roads ahead with frustrating decisions but as the dust settles, as we get the 'hang' of it, just like any other obstacles in life.

It will be okay.

We will be okay.



   

Makketh Bi-fold Slim Wallet & Card Holder

sponsored review

 Jhon had always complained about his bulky wallet and along with the majority of the men, he does not carry a bag all the time so the wallet is always in his back pocket. On top of his desk related back and shoulder aches, not having him seating properly does have an effect on him. You see, his hips would not be leveled to make up the bulky pocket on only one side of his butt cheek.

That's when I came across Makketh's Bi-fold Slim Wallet on FB. Granted, such wallets were not a new concepts but I just happened to see it on my FB wall and ta'da, it was Makketh's launch sales. With Jhon's birthday (at that time) around the corner, I bought it and gave him as an advanced gift.

It's been 5 months since he owned the wallet and he absolutely loved it. It was also funny that for the first week or so, he kept saying how he always thought he forgot or lost his wallet because he barely feels it's presence his pocket. I guess it's a good and bad thing right? haha

Fast forward to present, when Makketh found out I was one of their buyers, they decided to send another bi-fold slim wallet and additional card holder so I can properly share and review for all of you.

They both come in a clean and simple packaging with a cloth bag. It looked presentable enough to just put a bow and ready to give as a gift.







First thing about Makketh's wallets are that it is slim and minimalism in design. Despite it's slimness, you still can insert 14 cards and 10 bills inside and yet maintains it's 15 mm thickness. It has a pulled tab feature which made it easier to access to the cards. It's leather is naturally tanned which results to thicker and durable leather that do not emits chemical smells. The process is also more environmentally friendly and healthier for people too!

With all payments and information easily scanned for our convenience, it also has it's downfall. With RFID blocking protection, it prevents thieves from obtaining your personal and financial account information through scanning. This means it's perfect for travelling too!

As mentioned earlier, Jhon truly loved the wallet. It's compact but still able to hold all his cards. It's thin, light weight and since it's real leather, the wear and tear gives it character. The wallet holds money well although it does need getting used to. The fact that it's 'exposed' and does not give the impression of security as the notes can easily move can be unnerving but so far, no notes actually had fallen.



Makketh Card Holder





Similar to the bi-fold wallet, Makketh's card holder is slim and simple. It has 4 compartments that can hold up to 10 cards and even some notes. It also has a pull tab function and has a RFID blocking protection. The leather however, is oil-tanned which made it water resistant but it has an accent ballistic black nylon with cotton blue stripped lining for an additional touch.

Jhon's card current card holder only holds 2 card, his EZ-link card and work ID so the card holder caters more than enough for him. In fact, he can even put some emergency money in there. For those who are wondering if the RFID blocks the cards from being tapped or scanned.


It's yes and no.

If the cards are inside where the blue-stripped lining is, yes. He can't tap his EZ-link card at all even after several tries BUT if he placed them in the side compartments, it's a no. He could tap while boarding and alighting the bus with no problem. As for his work ID, he can tap it at work in the inner slot with ease.

Crafted with premium leather, both wallet and card holder has quality assurance and backed up by a 6-month warranty. Not only that, Makketh provides free worldwide shipping!

The bi-fold slim wallet comes in 3 colors of black, light brown and dark brown while the card holders comes in red brown and tan. They are sold at S$79.00 and S$69.00 respectively and they do have sales once in a while.



For more details and how to purchase, head on to their website and/or keep a look out for giveaways and sales at their Facebook and Instagram.

Click http://bit.ly/2jPYyOS to get your hands on Makketh's wallets now. No regrets.

Thanks Makketh for sending their products. Jhon now has a matching set of wallet and card holder. As for the extra wallet, he loves it too much to gift it away. I've got no comment for that. haha






   

Goodbye 2016, Hello 2017

It's that time of the year again where I do a quick summary of the year that has passed.

2016 was definitely a great year to remember because it was the year Jhon and I got married. If you've been following up, my blog was filled 98% of nothing but wedding related stuff even after our wedding on April because of reviews and such.

Sure, 2016 has it's ups and downs but it was a year with mostly ups and I am forever grateful with that.



There were a few other things that had happened in the year but these are the highlights of mine.
The year had started with our pre-wedding photoshoot, welcomed a new member of the family and I nursed and fell in love with a bird.

I turned 32 which was cool since aging never perturbs me, at least not mentally or emotionally.

Soon after that, our families officially met up for the first time which of course, lead to our wedding. We had more family bonding with the entire family and sight-seeing with the Tolentinos before sending them off to the Phillippines.

We spent almost a week at Cambodia which was amazing as we climbed the temples and soaked at the beach. We managed to squeezed in some of our normal routines of firework and picnics and concerts after celebrating Jhon's 34th birthday at Batam.

I know 2016 was terrible for the world 'out there' but for my little own world, for the first time in many years, I can happily say that it's pretty much awesome. I hope it will continue on to the years to come. I hope you had a great year too and even if it's not, I hope it had made you grew wiser.

Happy New Year, everyone!

   

Balik Kampung.... Oohhh... Balik Kampung...

We had booked for our trip to Philippines! Every year, Jhon would go back to hometown for a week or so for family bonding and since we are married, it's a trip for 2.

The last time I visited Philippines was 4 years ago and 5 years next year when our trip will be; late January to be exact.


We always liaise with Fil Air Travel and Tours (not sponsored ah lol) because it's less stressful. Plus, sometimes travel agents have special promotions so we got S$100 off which we wouldn't if we had bought online.

It is to also coincide with his grandma's big birthday party.
Mak was greatly invited to follow but due to unforeseen circumstances, she can't which is unfortunate especially after watching her and Ma got so close.



I simply can't wait because I've officially been bitten by the travel bug since Cambodia and if I have plenty of excess cash, there's where I would splurge on!

I crave for adventure and exploration even if it's a tiny one.


   

Penguruan Pencak Sendeng Camp 2016

My two nephews, Shibly and Syihab are currently are participating in a silat group called Penguruan Pencak Sendeng since early this year. Even Abg had joined as a fighter for while until he tore off his ligament on his bicep so it was just his 2 boys while he and Kak Yana joined as a team managers.

I've watched them practiced and had fought before and it was so amazing to see the young ones strutting their stuff. That was why we were more than happy when Abg and Kak Yana asked us to be the photographer and personal videographer for their camp. It was so last minute and we only had time for 2 of the 3 days. Since they were okay with it, then okay lah. Plus, a little moolah on the side was great too. hehe

The camp was held on Friday, Saturday and Sunday and as much as I enjoy camping once in a blue moon, I don't think I could survive 2 nights of camping with such a big group, no less. On top of that, it was a rainy weekend which was fun to experience (oh boy, did we all got muddy) but clean up must be so leceh. Jhon and I were glad we get to go home since we needed to charge our stuff.

We missed day 1 but it was mostly silat training, camp chit-chat of goals, discussions, night walks and such. Day 2 was the interesting day because it was that's when they had their matches among themselves. There was also supposed to be team performances too but the day was getting late plus, one team was exceedingly in the lead for their best overall team that it would be fruitless.

I am going to post only some of the photos because there were tonnes.



After their morning walk and reflections, everyone had their breakfast.



Morning warm up.



And the inter-teams matches starts!



I can't resist the cute kiddos.





Father and daughter moment.







Random eagle photo because it happened to soar above us and even call cried out which was amazingly, was a first time for me to hear in real life. Usually, I would hear eagle cries on NatGeo or Assassins Creed.



This boy was excepted from silat but he better buck up next year. He is going to be in Primary 1 and that cute boy act is not working as well as before.



Shibly won his first official fight here. I'm biased so I'm going to bombard many photos of him.









War/ fighting face is never pretty huh? haha



Daddy as his corner man. Abg was beaming with pride that day.







We didn't have any photos of it but after the constant rain, there were plenty of mud all around. The big boys used a tarp for a mini slip and slide. Before we knew it, everyone joined and what supposed to be dumping people on the soapy water tarp, everyone started to dump people on the mud!

Everyone ended up muddy like swamp people! It was fun to watch and probably fun to experience but the thought of cleaning up in a public toilet was horrendous, wasn't it?

Next day, after breakfast and end of camp reflections, it was award ceremony.











Final verdict, it was a successful camp with entertaining moments almost every part of the day and I got really tanned, even more tanned when Jhon and I visited to Cambodia. Go figure!

Thanks to Abg and family for allowing is to be a part of the camp.



Oh yeah!

It was so hilarious when they were doing the lost and found segment where there were unclaimed towels and underwear! Typical camping moments!



   

Maher Zain Concert in Singapore

Remember when I would go to so many concerts? Yeah, I miss that lifestyle. The last time I went to a concert was actually in 2012 performed by Garbage. Every since then, financial things and wedding planning happened and that was it. We did go to several shows in between but never a concert.

I digress.

Maher Zain's concert was one of Jhon's birthday presents. He is quite a fan and he had mentioned a few times that Maher Zain's songs touched his heart strings.



Naturally, we headed to Kallang early to jalan-jalan and had an early dinner. We found ourselves at Ayam Penyet President, a first time besides the 'normal' Ayam Penyet restaurant. It was the best decision we ever made because we realized that they served grilled milk fish!!

I only discovered milk fish when I visited Philippines and had Relyenong Bangus which was basically stuffed milk fish. I love the meat but this fish has ridiculously amount of tiny bones! So when I saw they had de-boned grilled milk fish, I knew I got to have it.



We had some spare time after a while so we sat around enjoying the beautiful sunset.



You know what? It's been a while since we dated like this. Don't get me wrong, we do go out, watch movies and such but what I meant was sitting around and watching the sunsets. The only difference was me playing Pokemon hahaha but don't worry, I was never the one plastered on the handphone 24/7. (unless we are in the bus because gotta get all those pokestops)

If you had followed me on Instagram Stories, you would also know that we wore matchy-match outfits and I was feeling DREADFUL! I truly despise wearing matchy-match outfits (no offence to those who loves it, whatever makes you happy). I am okay with somewhat similar such as similar color groups but never matchy-match. In the past, we would always accidentally match in terms of color and Jhon would enjoy it or maybe enjoys watching me freak out.

Obviously, now that we are living together, you would think I can control and avoid that but Jhon insisted! I thought I could deal with it but as soon as we were down stairs, I felt so crappy and lame! sighs! NEVER AGAIN!



But the golden hour light was really good and cannot resist some photo taking.







ANYWAYS! I do digress a lot today huh?
Back to the concert story.

So being the cheapskate thrifty person I am, I did bought the cheapest seats since we just wanted to hear Maher Zain live and that fact that I've spent money on other presents and outings. To our happy surprise, our seats got upgraded. It's probably because the concert was not sold out and they wanted to fill in the seats below but WHO CARES? I saved $100 for each ticket! I saved $200 baby! haha

The opening act was Harris J which honestly, I have no idea who he was. He is like the Muslim Justin Beiber and his song 'Salam Alaikum' was really nice and catchy!



Again, if you follow my or Jhon's IG Stories, you would get to watch snippets of the concert.
Maher Zain's voice was perfection and that includes the band. He sang plenty songs from his latest album 'One' and many mashups from his previous ones, you know like InsyaAllah, Number One for Me, Ya Nabi Salam Alaika and more.



We thoroughly enjoyed the concert and the upgrade was just the cherry on top. Not only that, the date in general was wonderful. Perhaps minus the matching outfits....