Shibly's Graduation

Introducing what may be the most expensive kindergarten graduation ever!


Shibly had finally graduated from Iman Kindergarten and they are having their graduation and performance at Fairmont Hotel Singapore. Tickets were at $78 each regardless if you are a parent or a sibling. Of course we as a family want to attend his graduation  and watch him perform on stage. Especially that Shibly asked if Omah, Mak Su and Uncle Jhon is coming or not. Not only that, Mak wanted Jhon to go for picture taking but man.. that price! Thankfully, it was later sponsored by Mak. =p

The event starts at 11am but children were to be at location at 9am for their last rehearsal. The parents changed Shibly into his Arabian costume, took photos with the groggy boy and we went for a quick breakfast.







Obligatory table photo. Mak, why you always have your eyes closed?


As expected, the event started late because of their rehearsal and having waited other families get themselves settled down. (janji melayu lol) We got seats near the back but it was okay. Jhon rented an awesome tele lens so can zoom nicely.



The theme of the event was Kids of the World where all Imanites dress up in a certain country's traditional outfit and perform. Wahhh.. So cute lah and their outfits were beautiful. To see these kids wriggle and dance was so entertaining!



As expected, for every performance, every parent would rush closer to the stage for a better view. Some were complaining but what do you expect? It's the apple of their eyes performing, of course they want to be up close. Granted, the view was blocked with handphones, cameras and what was worst, ipads. lol

After a few performances, food gradually came in. There were many hit and miss but what do you expect from hotel food eh?



There were many districts but thank God Tenagaville's performance was in the middle of the event so it was not a long wait for our star. When it was announced that they were performing, everyone except for Mak (had to take care of Syihab) zoomed to the stage for a closer look.





Never had we seen Shibly dance with so much gusto and confidence!! All this while, when we watch him perform, he tend to look at his friends and did his dance admittedly not so fantastically but this time, it was perfect.

Look at that serious face.




After his performance, we went back to our table and enjoyed the rest of the event at our table.





Not very long, we found out Tenagaville will be coming out along with other districts for a graduation walk so I checked the lobby and lo and behold! Shibly and his class! lol I scrambled back to our table so everyone can take 1 on 1 photo with him in his graduation suit. Super excited right?

We were so engross with our own photo taking that we forgot to take a photo of his classmates and teachers. Aiyah.. nvmlah.. got the standard class photo already. =p






Soon, it's time for the graduation walk.




There were a few more performances after that and for all we knew, it's the finale! All parents raced to the stage again. lol





Pity Shibly because for a moment, his teacher forgot about him and left him alone on stage lol. But never mind, got his own limelight for that minute.





The event went smoothly and the kids were fantastic and would've been better if there aren't so many charities and a lot of pushing to sign up classes for further education enhancement in between. I really don't mind but they were really pushing it to a point it's annoying.

I like the last part though. I admittedly had rolled my eyes when parents were encouraged to wear school uniforms for a dress up contest but I ended up enjoying their sportiness. I clapped and screamed very loud for the lady in far right. As for the lady next to her, what's her deal with that outfit? lol Doesn't' she know most of the audience is mak cik, pak cik? She had the least applause =p


When it all ended, Shibly was clearly tired but was very happy to see our proud and gleaming faces. We had nothing but praises for him.




1 nephew down, 2 to go.
$_$



   

Perks of Being an 'Old' Bride to Be

Old is subjective.
To a 7 year old, 22 is old while to a 35 year old, 22 is young.

But within the Malay community, a 29 year old woman who is only starting to plan her wedding that will be estimated to happen in 2 years time is OLD. It gives an implication that the lady is flawed. Whether she is too choosy or just not an ideal partner.

So what is with the hold up? I just want to enjoy my dating years and not just the type of lady who is eager to get married. It helps that I can be a pessimistic so I don't see the ideology of marriage like most ladies do. So I relax ah! In a way, I am glad for that kind of thinking because I've been in long term relationships that didn't work out. Imagine if I had married them? Confirm divorcee =p

I digress.

So now I am ready to get married with the man of my dreams and beyond (cheh cheh), and been researching vendors. I realized that there are 3 extra vendors and 2 wedding issues that weddings in the past do not have. It is practically the in thing for 'younger' BTB. Note that I am not mocking these vendors or BTB. I respect their business, likes and dislikes. I am sharing the fact that I am too old for these 'in thing' and it helps a lot in my budgeting. =D

Disclaimer: Jhon is 31 year old GTB and either have the same thoughts with me or just indifferent about some of these things. 

Photo booth
If you have been to a fair share of weddings or even seen photos of it, most wedding have a photo booth. It is basically a background set up with fun and wacky props for guests to take photos in. Photos later can be for keeps or placed in the wedding guestbook for the bride and groom to see. Props can also be DIY for a more personal touch.

[Zudrya Creation]

I understand the concept. It's fun, entertaining and bonding for guests, but it's not for us. I can see some are pretty cool in terms of prop and photo quality as photo above but we personally don't find it necessary. In fact, we find it silly not in a good way and don't have a wedding vibe, it's more to a random party vibe.

Costs Averted: $400 to $900

Faux Bridal Bouquet
What is a bride without her bouquet? Beautiful fresh flowers that compliments the beautiful bride. But alas fresh flowers tend to be so cliche' because "real flowers wilt and die" whereas a faux bouquet can be kept for keepsake especially BTBs had paid good money for them.

[left: Budgetnista Chic, Right: Heirblooms]

Frankly speaking, I am a little torn by this one because some vendors do create really beautiful and unique faux bouquets but I am a sucker for fresh flowers. True, it's always great to have wedding mementos but it's the natural smell, feel and beauty that I always fall for. Plus, bridal bouquets tend to come together with bridal/deco packages so I don't see the need to hassle myself with another vendor and cost.

Cost Adverted: $150 and above (unless go DIY)

(Specially made) Dessert Bar
Usually, a standard desert table comes together with the caterer. It basically comes as a set but some brides likes to outsource a dessert table for a more unique and favorable desserts. It is because standard dessert tables comes with traditional desserts whereas specially made dessert table caters for modern taste buds with macaroons, cupcakes, marshmallows etc

[Ola Lola]

Jhon and I personally love traditional desserts. Although we know it is meant more for guests than us, it's just not us to have that kind of dessert table I guess. We don't see the necessity especially forking out additional costs just to have a specially made dessert table.

Cost Adverted: $1000++ depending on PAX

 Bachelorette Party (Hen party)
When mention Bachelor/ Bachelorette party, it would be the last thing in mind when relating to a Malay wedding but now, it is. I understand the hype in celebrating with your closest friends and also help calm the BTB's jitters. It's fun with dress up, pampering and games...

[Chasethebride]

...but it's not my thing. "Kakak tua ni tak pernah exposed to hen party... cuma kat TV Mat Saleh aje.  dulu orang melayu kahwin, tak pernah nak party-party macam gini pun"  >_< That is my makcik2 thinking. Firstly, planning and costs would be on the bridesmaids or friends and I really don't have the heart burden people that way. Secondly, I have only 1 really close friend excluding Sis and SIL I would like to 'party' with. lol

Cost Adverted for others: $500++

Bridesmaids
Hahh.. Another western tradition. Bridesmaids is basically 'orang kuat' to help with the little things or support you in your wedding. In Malay weddings, we don't really have a special stature for it. Everyone who is willing to help is 'orang kuat'. We don't have to especially appoint someone and give them position to it.

For the first time, I was appointed as Maid of Honour to an old best friend and I was blur to the max.(because for a malay wedding?) I just helped and dedicated with whatever I could but little did I know, you girls were very serious with bridesmaids issues. Not that she felt I was not up to par, she just wanted me to help with minor stuff but now, bridesmaids has a whole different level for me.

[AfnanOmar Photography]

Specially appointed positions lead V.I.P treatment to them too. This issue could be touche because I may come off as stingy and ungrateful. I just find the need to also get special made outfits and sometimes thank you gifts a little too much.  Since the bridesmaid or M.O.H is the BTB's bestfriend so of course it's all sincere but my thinking is that, helping a BTB is a natural thing and I personally think it's a little over the top. Again, this is my old, conservative woman thinking okay?

We used to buy and provide cloths to our relatives in the past to indicate they are family during the wedding but that practice is gone but instead to friends. To me, "tak payah beli untuk siapa-siapa lah!" except for close family members of course.

Cost Adverted: $500 and above depending on PAX

With just that, we managed to save a minimum of $3000! So in way, it's not so bad to be an old bride eh? lol

Sorry if I accidentally hurt some BTB ya... I totally respect if it's what you like so respect me that this is what I don't.