The Gender Specific Roles Game

Living in this day and age, sexism, especially gender specific roles are still existent. More so if you come from an Asian background. Even with such a modern age, women are still expected to able to master cooking, cleaning, child bearing skills and not to mention husband serving skills. These issues tend to surface more after marriage and it's always more focused on the womanly "duties".

Ever heard of the quote
"Men want their wives be chef in the kitchen, a lady/maid in the living room, and a whore in bed"?

Ask any married woman and they will say yes sometimes to a point there is no compromise, no fairness but pure expectations with a reason that it's just a woman's duty. I call myself as a open-minded but conservative, old fashion kind of girl but come on.

Fine, I am okay with "womanly duties" but how about the men? Unfortunately, in this century, the only "manly duties" they get to carry out is just bring in the money and sow their seeds. Is that really it? I refuse to allow it!

To me, what makes a man is not just being the bread winner and be the boss of the house.

If women have their "duties", men have it too. It's just that a modern lifestyle don't really require them to do the manly stuff. It's not just buying a TV, send the computer for repairs or visit IKEA for a simple shoe shelf.

As much as I am okay to be expected to be a "chef/maid/whore",
I expect my man to be a plumber, electrician, IT guy, carpenter and a Casanova.

If my house needs some fixing, my partner should able to do it without a heartbeat and do it well. Of course with an exception if the problem is major. You will be amazed how some men are not auto at all in fixing leaks and even fixing a fan seems difficult. These are also the same men who believe in women have to do their "duties", Go Figure.

That is why I am so lucky to have partner like Jhon. He does not even care about gender duties because he also can cook, clean and sew. Not only that, he is Jhon Jack of all trades.
When my sink was leaking, who fixed it. He did.
Who always fix my laptop? He did.
Who fixed my wall fan? He did.
and recently, he impressed me even more by helping me and my mom by building a pottery/ shoe shelf out of scraps of wood.

It's hard to find such effort in simple carpentry anymore. I am pretty sure if ask anyone else, 'semua tak kuasa' right? While doing his work, my neighbor who is an old man actually joked and said "Why? No money ah? (to get a shelf) Come, I give you money" 

This is called DIY work, uncle. I would think someone of his age would understand this but apparently uncle is orang kaya since young. Anyways, we need specific specifications to fit and since we can do it ourselves, why not? Plus, there is a sense of accomplishment knowing that you built something with your own hands and brains. 

What was the icing of the cake was my dad, who I had watched/ helped doing all kinds of DIY carpentry work as a kid noticed it and complimented Jhon for his work. 


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